Ta’aruf before marriage

Indeed Islam has provided guidance to the adherents of would enter the path of marriage, complete with the procedures, or the rules of Allah Most High. So they are quite expert worship, would not vote for another procedure. However, in the community us, this is not widely known.
In this brief treatise, we will reveal the manner marriage in accordance with the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad is only in this way we avoid the path heresy (heresy). So the people who practice it will walk on a clear basis for believing about religion the truth of what he did. In the real marriage problems Islam has set such a way. From the start how to look for companion candidates live up to create a wedding party. Although the simple but full of blessings and still look stunning. Islam also guides how to treat potential life companion after officially became the heart conditioning. Following we will discuss procedures for marriage in Islam briefly.
Things To Do Before Marriage
I. Request Considerations
For a man before he decided to marry a woman to become his wife, let him also requested consideration from close relatives of the woman is a good religion. They should people know about things that pertain to women’s right to be spoken by the man, so he can give consideration honestly and fairly. Similarly, for women who will be spoken by a man, should he ask for consideration of their close relatives good faith.
II. Prayers Istikharah
After getting the consideration about how the candidate’s wife, should he make prayers to his heart given istikharah stability by Allah in making decisions.
Istikharah Prayer is praying to ask Allah for given guidance in choosing which is best for him. Prayers istikharah is not only done for the purpose of seeking a mate alone, but in all matters if someone has a sense of hesitated to take a decision regarding an important matter. This is to distance themselves from the possibility of falling kepada sorrows of life. God willing, he will get the ease in specify a choice.
III. Khitbah (proposal)
Once someone gets stability in determining a woman choice, then let immediately ask for her hand. Men should face the parent / guardian of a woman’s choice to convey the will of his heart, which asked that he sanctioned for marry his daughter. As for women who may dipinang is when meet two requirements as follows, namely:
1. At the time dipinang no obstacles that syari cause men are prohibited from memperisterinya time. As for some reason that women are forbidden early kahi forever (Still a mahram) or temporary (period iddah / husbands or in-laws etc.). 2. Not dipinang others legally, because Islam forbids one’s brother’s hand in marriage proposal.
From Uqbah ibn Amir radiyallahu anhu that the Prophet said: “The believer is the brother of a believer another. So it is not permissible for a Muslim to sell goods already purchased brothers, and not halal too woo women already dipinang brother, so that his brother had left him. ” (Narrated by Jamaat)
If a woman had two requirements above then unlawful for a man to ask for her hand.
IV. Seeing the woman who proposed
Islam is a religion that mensyariatkan hanif applicants to view women are spoken for and mensyariatkan woman who proposed to see men who ask for her hand, for each party actually get clarity when partner choice From Jabir radliyallahu life anhu, said: Prophet sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam:
“If one of your woo a lady, then if he is able to look to what he should be compelled to marry her. “Jabir said:” So I propose a slave woman and I hid to see what drives me to marry her. Then I married her. “(Narrated by Abu Daud and at shahihkan by Shaykh al-Albani in Saheeh Sunan Abu Dawood, 1832). Now Islamic law is put in issue to see the proposal These include:
1. Reproduction seclusion with a male suitor without a mahram. 2. Women who dipinang should not shake hands with men who ask for her hand.
V. Akad Nikah
In aqad marriage there are some terms and obligations that must be met:
a. The presence of both consensual bride. b. The existence of consent qabul.
Consent means express or express a word. Qabul it means accepting. Consent qabul So that means a person declared something to his interlocutors, then his interlocutor states received. Within marriage is a “final offer qabul” is a guardian or representative of the bride told the daughter’s future husband / women under the ward, for marriage to men who take women as his wife. Then the man in question states receive that marriage. Narrated in a hadith that: Sahl ibn Said said: “A woman came to the Prophet sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam to give himself up, he said, “I submit myself unto you.” Then he stood for a long time (for waiting). Then a man got up and said: “O Messenger kawinkanlah me with it if you do not intend to him. “Then the Prophet sallallaahu alaih wa sallam said:” I marries you to him with a dowry that is in you. “(Narrated by Bukhari and Muslim).
Sahl Hadiths above explains that the Prophet sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam has mengijabkan a woman with a dowry to the Sahl or maskawinnya verses of the Quran and Sahl accept it.
c. The presence Mahar (dowry)
Glorify Islam obliges women to men who want to submit a dowry to marry her (dowry). Islam does not specify limits certain value in this dowry, but upon agreement of both parties and by levels of ability. Islam is also more dowry like an easy and simple and not superfluous in the request.
From Uqbah ibn Amir said: Prophet sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam: “The best dowry is the lightest.” (Narrated by Al-Hakim and Ibn Majah, hadeeth, see Saheeh al-Jamius Shaghir 3279 by Al-Albani)
d. The existence of Guardian
From Abu Musa radliyallahu anhu, the Prophet of sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam He said: ‘It is not legally a marriage without a guardian. (Narrated by Abu Daud and dishahihkan by Shaykh Al-Albani in Saheeh Sunan Abi Dawud no. 1836). Guardian who get first priority among all guardian-trustee who is the father of the bride. If there is no then his grandfather (father’s father), then half-brother, sons of my mother or half-, then the child’s brother. After that closest relatives of others or judge.
e. The existence of Jehovah’s Witnesses
Messenger sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam said:
‘No valid a marriage without a wali and two witnesses the fair. “(Narrated by al-Bayhaqi from Imran and from Aisha, saheeh, see Saheeh Al-Jamius Shaghir by Shaykh Al-Albani no. 7557).
According to the sunnah of Prophet sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam, before aqad marriage khuthbah held earlier called khuthbatun marriage or khuthbatul-urination.
VI. Walimah
Mind Walimatul obligatory. Its foundation is the word of Allah alaih sallallaahu wa sallam to Abdurrahman bin Auf:
“…. Hold walimah even if only with a goat. ” (Narrated by Dishahihkan by Abu Dawud and Al-Alabni in Saheeh Sunan Abu Dawud no. 1854)
Walimah invitation is also obligatory. “If you’re invited walimah, welcome invitation (either marriage or an invitation others). Whoever does not mean he welcomed the invitation been adulterous in Allah and His Messenger. “(Narrated by Bukhari 9 / 198, Muslim 4 / 152, and Ahmad no. 6337 and Al-Bayhaqi 7 / 262 by Ibn Umar).
But not compulsory to attend the invitation in which there immoral to Allah Ta’ala and His Messenger, except with the intention of modify and blew it. If you’ve already present, but not able to change or thwart, the required leave place.
From Ali said: “I make the food so I invited the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him and he was coming. He came in and see the curtain with a picture so he came out and said:
“Verily, the angels do not enter a house in which there is image. “(Narrated by An-Nasai and Ibn Majah, saheeh, see Saheeh al-Jamius Laisa mimma fis Shahihain 4 / 318 by Sheikh Muqbil bin Hadi Al-Wadii).
As for the Sunnah that must be considered when conduct is walimah as follows:
1. Conducted for three (3) days after the day dukhul (his entry) as presented by Anas radliallahu `anhu, said:
From Anas radliallahu `anhu, he said:” The Messenger Allah has married with dowry Shafiyah release (as a prisoner of war of Khaibar), and held walimah for three days. “(Narrated by Abu Yala, hasan chain, such as those found in Al-Fath 9/199 and contained in the Sahih Bukhari 7 / 387 with meaning like that. See Adabuz Zifaf fis Muthaharah by Al-Sunnah Al-Albani things. 65)
2. Let the righteous invite people, whether rich or poor in accordance with the Messenger of Allah wills:
‘Do not friendly except with a believer and do not eat food except a pious. “(Narrated by Abu Dawood, At-Tirmidhi, Ibn Hibbaan and al-Hakim of Abi Al-Khudri Said, hasan, see Saheeh Al Jamius Shaghir 7341 and al-Mashabih Misykah 5018.)
3. As far as possible to cut a goat or more, according to economic level. This information contained in the Hadith Al-Bukhari, An-Nasai, Al-Bayhaqi, and others from Anas radliallahu `anhu. Prophet said to Abdurrahman bin Auf:
“Hold walimah although only with a goat.” (Narrated by Abu Dawood and dishahihkan by Al-Albani in Saheeh Sunan Abu Dawud no. 1854)
But from some of the saheeh hadeeth indicates allowed also held walimah without meat. Allowed also enliven marriage with a sing-song and beating the tambourine (not music) song sung by the terms do not conflict with ahklaq as narrated in the following hadith: From Aisha that he paraded a woman met a man Ansar. The Holy Prophet said: “O Aisha, why do you not presenting entertainment ..? Because of the Ansar happy on entertainment. “(Narrated by Bukhari 9/184-185 and al-Hakim 2 / 184, and Al-Bayhaqi 7 / 288). Islamic guidance for the invited guests who came to the wedding feast should be praying for both families and family. From ABI Hurayrah radi anhu that the Messenger s if to congratulate a bride, he said a prayer: “May Allah give you blessing. may God pour out blessings to you and may He unite both of you in virtue. “(Narrated by Said ibn Mansur in his Sunan 522, as did Abu Dawud 1 / 332 and At-Tirmidhi 2 / 171 and others, see Adabuz Zifaf things. 89)
As for words like “May the bride to cheap food and lots child “as a congratulations to the bride and groom were greeting forbidden by Islam, because it is a frequent utterance The jaahiliyyah said.
From Hasan that Aqil ibn Abi Talib is married to a woman from Jisyam. Guests congratulated by saying jaahiliyyah: “Beer rafa banin wal.” Aqil ibn Abi Talib prevent it, he said: “Do not you say that because the Prophet forbade it.” The guest asked: “So what should we say yes .. Aba Zaid?” Aqil explain, say: “May Allah give you blessings and bestow upon you blessings. ‘As that’s our ordered. (Narrated by Ibn Abi Syaibah 7/52/2, An-Nasai 2 / 91, Ibn Majah 1 / 589 and others, see Adabuz Zifaf things. 90)
Thus the marriage procedures prescribed by Islam. Hopefully God Almighty gave hollow for people who are sincere for the follow the instructions properly in the start married life by following the Sunnah of the Prophet. Hopefully they are classified into slaves that are intended in his words: “That the people who say: O our Rabb, bestowed to us our wives and our offspring as happyness liver (us). And make us priests to people who pious. “(Al-Furqan: 74).
Maraji: – Fiqhul Marah al-Muslimah, Ibrahim Mohammed Al-Jamal. – Adabuz Zifaf fis Muthahharah Al-Sunnah, Shaykh al-Albani Nashiruddin.
Science is an abstract property entrusted to all of Allah Subhanahu wata’ala man who will continue to grow if done, one of the process is to distribute that knowledge to those in need. Do not be arrogant with the knowledge that a little, because if Allah wills that science will vanish in an instant, let the people who do not know, give people who ask for guidance instructions, give the extent that science that you can afford.

Wallahu’alam bishowab..


~ oleh Vandi Al-faqir pada 06/02/2011.

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